Does the thought of going to work produce anxiety that almost prevents you from getting out of bed or leaving the house? Do find that you get what feels like a panic attack; racing heart, cold sweats, heart palpitations, chest pains and dizziness when you think of going to work or need to leave the train or your car to enter the building? Do you find yourself having disproportionate anger at people or situations? Are you having emotional outbursts at people or situations that are unprofessional or hurtful to loved ones. Do you find yourself questioning the purposelessness of your life, your work? Are you wondering what you are doing or why are doing?
Have you stopped feeling happy? You don’t find the joy in life. Perhaps you are drinking more, or eating. Maybe you are sleeping less or even sleeping more. You just don’t feel good or like yourself. Your relationships are changing…for the worse.
If you are finding that you are in mid life in 40s to 50s and your life isn’t what you thought it would be at this age and you are feeling angry, frustrated or deeply disappointed and sad, you may be having an existential crisis.
An existential crisis or more commonly referred to as a midlife crisis. I prefer existential crisis, because that is exactly what it is. You are approaching a time in your life where you are consciously or unconsciously becoming aware of your mortality. You are starting to realize you have lived more years than you may have left to live. You start to see the impact of early life decisions and don’t like how they’ve played out. It is even possible that those early life decisions have changed or taken away present decisions.
In your deep despair you may be engaging in risky choices that you can’t even believe you are choosing. You may be drinking more, flirting and pushing the boundaries of appropriate behaviors with members of the opposite sex even though you are married. You may have even engaged in a sexual relationship, happy ending or prostitute. Things you never ever imagined you would choose.
If you any of this sounds like you, there is help. Therapy helps people get back in charge of their life. It helps you to figure what is your purpose and find the meaning. Therapy moves beyond awareness and helps you figure how to start implement pro-creative life choices.
If you want to stop the negative thoughts, and downward spiral, all you need to do is take the first stept to reach out for help. Yes it is scary, but staying where you are, doing what you are doing and just hoping for something to change is even scarier.
Life can throw us a curveball that we cannot be prepared for. Asking for help is a sign of courage and strength, not weakness.
If you’d like to find out how we can help you, please contact us for an initial session to learn more about how we would collaborate together.
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