Dating fears

Have you had a series of bad dates? Have you met a number of people who have not been kind and nice to you? Do you often seem to meet really scary or disappointing people? Do you want to be in a relationship, but are starting to become afraid of dating? Do yout talk to your friends about what you might be doing wrong? Would you like to get better at relationships and dating?


All in the Family Counselling and Tammy Fontana help individuals develop the skills that they need to not only become better at dating to find a partner, but then also have the skills that they need to be able to do a successful relationship. Many people who do not seem to either date successfully or maintain relationships often lack certain relationship skills, possible self-awareness and the ability to set healthy boundaries and process feelings.

There are several things that people need to have in order to be able to be successful in dating. One of the most common things that happened with people who aren’t successful at dating is they have not developed the full and rich life on their own. They will often say they are bored and looking for somebody to complete them, to fill their life or give them meaning. And the unfortunate reality is this sets a way too high of a burden on another person to give you a relationship and eventually, the relationship will end because of conflicts, fights and too much pressure.

A skill that therapy helps people develop is helping them to understand who they are, what they like and how to get a full and rich life so that they can share it with another person. Not have another person be their life. Having a full and rich life is also knowing who we are, but is also another really important skill that an individual needs in order to be able to set boundaries and process feelings.


To be very very effective in dating or any kind of relationship, one needs to have very good, healthy boundaries and be able to process the feelings that come from the information given. People who aren’t successful in dating or relationships often don’t understand boundaries. They think boundaries are a way of making somebody do something, they think that telling somebody to do something or setting a boundary will make the person do that.


Therapy addresses these common misundrestandings about boundaries, self-worth, self-value and helps people to development. It’s absolutely key in being able to date effectively and develop long-term relationships, romantic or otherwise.

There is a lot of skills that people need in order to be able to develop healthy dating skills and relationships. If you long to stop a pattern of dissatisfying dates and painful relationship endings, therapy can help you. Therapy is a process by which people learn about themselves and they learn healthy relationship skills through the therapeutical process.

All in the Family Counselling and Tammy Fontana have been providing therapy for just under two decades. Their clients who commit to therapy have had great success in dating and finding and keeping long-lasting, satisfying relationships, while at the same time improving their own self-worth and self-value and developing rich and full lives.

If this sounds like something you would like to explore, contact us at +65 9030 7239 or email us at to learn how we can help you.

All in the Family Counselling has been providing therapy for just under two decades to Southeast Asia and Singapore. We help couples with sex and intimacy, relationship, dating, communication and conflict, anxiety. Contact us now to learn more!

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