Nothing rocks a couple more than when one person steps outside the relationship, through either a sexual or emotional affair. The impact of infidelity is profound, often shaking the foundation of trust and connection between two people, in addition to leaving the other feeling overwhelmed, uncertain, and deeply hurt.
While painful, infidelity does not have to mean the end of a relationship. Many couples find a way forward, sometimes building something stronger in the aftermath. Repair is possible, but it requires openness, accountability, and the right support.
At All in the Family Counselling, we offer infidelity counselling for couples and individuals navigating betrayal, emotional distress, and the uncertainty that follows a breach of trust. Our work in counselling for cheating spouse issues is rooted in understanding and growth. Our therapist aims to help couples slow down reactivity and find clarity, together or apart.
Understanding Infidelity
Infidelity is often seen as a breaking of trust, but what that looks like can differ from one couple to another. For some, it may involve a physical relationship outside the partnership. For others, emotional secrecy, financial deception, or digital intimacy can feel just as significant. What matters most is the shared expectation that has been breached.
At its core, infidelity involves a violation of an agreed boundary, spoken or unspoken, that leaves one partner feeling betrayed. This betrayal can shake both the trust in the relationship, as well as trust in oneself, leading to confusion, doubt, and emotional upheaval. What remains consistent is the emotional impact.
Infidelity can include:
- Emotional affairs, where emotional closeness is shared outside the relationship
- Physical or sexual relationships beyond agreed boundaries
- Digital infidelity, such as sexting or hidden conversations
- Financial secrecy or withholding important financial decisions
Decisions to Make: Repair and Improve the Relationship or End it?
In the aftermath of infidelity, couples are confronted with pivotal decisions. Couples are often left to decide whether they want to rebuild the relationship or part ways. While some may lean toward reconciliation, others may find that separation feels more aligned with their values and long-term well-being. There is no one-size-fits-all outcome, only what feels right for both individuals involved.
Counselling for cheating spouse situations creates space for these decisions to be made with intention rather than impulse. A neutral setting allows couples to regulate emotions, gain clarity, and understand what each partner truly wants moving forward. Whether you choose to stay or go, infidelity counselling can support clearer communication, identify relationship patterns, and guide each person through what can otherwise be an overwhelming process.
You don’t have to figure it all out at once. Couples counselling provides the support to establish what went wrong, structural issues and, most importantly, how to progress the relationship to a brighter, wholesome, satisfying future in spite of a cheating spouse.
What Are the Consequences of Infidelity?
Infidelity can disrupt the emotional foundation of a relationship, but its impact is not the same for everyone. Each person experiences the fallout in personal ways, emotionally, mentally, and even physically. For some, it may feel like the ground has shifted beneath them; for others, a prolonged sense of disorientation can follow.
For the Partner Who Feels Betrayed
The emotional aftermath can be overwhelming. Many experience a loss of self-trust, anxiety, and a deep sense of disconnection from the person they once felt closest to. Everyday can trigger unexpected waves of pain or confusion, making even the smallest decisions feel uncertain.
You may feel:
- Shock and disbelief
- Anger, sadness, or deep emotional numbness
- Anxiety or fear about the future
- A loss of self-worth or confidence
- Difficulty trusting not just your partner and other people too
Counselling provides space to process these emotions, regain emotional stability, and begin the journey toward restoring self-trust and clarity.
For the Partner Who Was Unfaithful
The person who has broken the agreement of trust may carry a different burden of guilt, regret, or uncertainty about how to take responsibility. Even when there’s remorse, knowing how to respond to your partner’s pain can feel overwhelming. Efforts to move forward may be met with repeated reminders of hurt, requiring patience and understanding.
You may feel:
- Shame or guilt about your actions
- Frustration at repeated conflict or mistrust
- Confusion about how to rebuild connection
- Worry that nothing you do will be enough
- Pressure to “move on” before your partner is ready
Counselling helps restore transparency, improve communication, and support accountability as you work toward honest, intentional ways of relating.
How Counselling Can Assist in Recovering from Cheating in the Relationship
Counselling for cheating spouse issues may feel overwhelming, especially in the early stages. Infidelity is often a sign that something in the relationship or within the individual is not working.Whether the cause stems from unresolved relational patterns or personal struggles, infidelity counselling offers a way to understand these underlying dynamics and begin addressing them with clarity.
Couples often turn to counselling to work through immediate emotional pain and longer-term decisions. Sessions may involve both partners or begin with individual counselling to help each person process what has happened.
Some of the issues that may be explored during infidelity counselling include:
- Determining if the marriage is worth saving, especially if children are involved. This can be a difficult decision when people are emotionally and spiritually vulnerable. However, with the professional help attained through counselling for cheating spouses to sort out these issues, you can shorten the time, lessen the pain and ensure a better outcome no matter what decision was taken.
- Exploring the impact of continuing without trust, and whether the relationship can shift to a more stable dynamic
- Processing the betrayal as part of the relationship’s story, allowing couples to move forward with shared understanding
- Overcoming emotions of grief and loss and learning how to effectively deal with the pain in the relationship
- Rebuilding trust and assessing if it’s possible to do so within the current relationship
- Understanding motivations behind the affair and recognising patterns or disconnects that may have contributed to it
- Evaluating the effects of punishment-based responses, such as exclusion from the home, control over communication or finances, or repeated interrogation, and whether these behaviours are moving the relationship forward
- Developing more effective communication habits and conflict resolution skills so that the couples can repair what wasn’t working before the infidelity and make sure they have a future strong in communication.
Our relationship counsellor will partner you on the journey to effective relationship skills, improved communication, firmer friendship and sexual intimacy.
Our Infidelity Counselling Fees
| Service | Duration | Fee |
| Therapy Hours 12 pm to 3am Worldwide providing | 50 Minutes Session | S$250 |
| 80 Minutes Session | S$375 | |
| 100 Minutes Session | S$500 | |
| Outside office hours | 50 minutes session | S$450 |
| Session Packages | 6 Session Package | S$1399 |
| 10 Session Package | S$2300 |
Schedule a Consultation with Our Counsellor
If you have decided to undergo counselling for a cheating spouse, taking the first step early can ease emotional overwhelm and prevent conflict from escalating. Our counsellor will guide you through your options and support you as you work through the impact of infidelity, whether individually or together as a couple.
Book a consultation to begin making sense of what has happened and what comes next.
About Us
At All in the Family Counselling, we are committed to guiding couples through the challenges of infidelity recovery with empathy, expertise, and understanding. Leading our team is the experienced and qualified therapist, Ms. Tammy Fontana. With over eight years of experience in counselling, Ms. Fontana possesses a deep understanding of relationship dynamics, emotional healing, and the complexities surrounding issues of infidelity.
Ms. Fontana is not only recognised in providing pre-wedding counselling, individual counselling and online therapy sessions, but also counselling for cheating spouses, drawing from a rich educational background and hands-on experience. With over thirteen years of residency in Singapore and a Permanent Resident status, Ms. Fontana combines her clinical training from the United States (USA) with her deep understanding of both the expatriate and local Singaporean communities to provide culturally sensitive therapy. Her compassionate approach also allows her to connect with couples in distress, helping them navigate the turbulent waters of betrayal and rebuilding trust.
As a marriage counsellor, Ms. Fontana holds various qualifications, such as an M.S. in Mental Health Counselling from Capella University, USA, a CACREP-approved institution. She also completed her 3000-hour clinical practicum and internship in the United States under the supervision of a senior U.S. licensed Counsellor (LPC). Holding the distinction of passing the U.S. National Counselor EXAM (NCE) and becoming a Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC) USA, Ms. Fontana is equipped to provide counselling for couples seeking assistance in overcoming the aftermath of infidelity.
To learn more about Ms. Fontana and her journey, visit our About Us page. At All in the Family Counselling, we are dedicated to helping couples rediscover hope, healing, and harmony as they navigate the path to recovery after infidelity.
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FAQs About Counselling for Cheating Spouse
1. Can counselling really help after infidelity?
Counselling can help couples move through the emotional fallout of infidelity in a constructive way. It provides a neutral environment for both partners to process what happened, express themselves, and reflect on what the relationship needs moving forward.
Counselling can help you:
- Rebuild trust through honest communication
- Understand the root causes of infidelity
- Regulate emotions like anger, guilt, or anxiety
- Improve conflict management and boundaries
- Explore whether and how the relationship can be repaired
2. How long does infidelity recovery counselling take?
The timeline varies for each couple. Some may need a few months of sessions, while others may engage in longer-term support depending on the complexity of the issues, willingness to work through them, and the history of the relationship.
3. Should we attend sessions together or separately?
Both formats are available. Some couples choose to start with individual sessions to clarify personal thoughts and emotions before coming together for joint work.
4. What can I expect during counselling for cheating?
You can expect a safe setting to talk about what happened, what it means for each partner, and how to move forward. Our counsellor may explore communication patterns, emotional needs, personal values, and past relationship dynamics.
5. Can the relationship be repaired after cheating?
It depends. Many couples have repaired and even strengthened their relationship after infidelity but only when both partners are willing to reflect, take responsibility, and work towards change.
6. Is infidelity counselling different from regular couple counselling?
Infidelity counselling focuses specifically on the rupture caused by cheating. It addresses immediate emotional fallout and longer-term relational issues, while also helping both partners explore the future of the relationship.