Taking Responsibility

Do you often find yourself blaming others for things that go wrong in your life? Do people tell you that you don’t take responsibility for your actions or your decisions? Are you in a relationship with somebody who is constantly blaming everybody for all the things that go wrong in their life? Are you somebody who is often complaining and whining about all the bad things in your life? Do you often find yourself going into a victim mode and what you feel hard done by the world and don’t understand why nothing ever goes your way?

One of the things that some people don’t get in their development is the guidance on how to think about the consequences of their actions. They may not be taught to learn and look at new ways to calculate their decisions. You may find that you act impulsively or emotionally and then this has consequences.

When we don’t understand how to make decisions or look at things from different perspectives or how it may affect other people, we may not be able to always anticipate properly the outcome or consequences of our choices. This is a grown up way of learning how life works that people need to learn how to do. Unfortunately, many people may not get this guidance or skills in their life.

If one does not learn how to properly calculate their choices, understand how their actions have consequences and how their actions can affect other people, you may struggle with relationships or in friendship, romantic partner or even at work. You may find yourself always feeling like a victim. Perhaps, you are always complaining that you can’t keep dates, you can’t find nice people, you may feel like nobody understands you, why do people always get angry at you, you may really be struggling to make sense of the reactions people have to you and your choices and you may feel often defensive, misunderstood and angry.

These are symptoms of somebody who needs to learn how to think in a more grown up and effective manner, understand how to calculate and think about their decisions and choices and learn new ways to understand how their interactions with other people may be affecting them. While you may have very good intentions, you may not be aware of how your good intentions have negative impact on other people that cause them to react to you in unexpected, hostile and upset ways.

All in the Family Counselling helps people to develop new ways of thinking and communicating in a more effective way that helps with building better relationships. It also helps people to be self-reflective, manage their feelings and learn new ways to do boundaries and see other people’s boundaries.

All in the Family Counselling has been providing therapy to Southeast Asia and Singapore for just under two decades. Tammy Fontana, lead therapist, has been providing therapy for under two decades as well.  She specializes in working with difficult high conflict cases, infidelity, sex and intimacy, communication and conflict, anxiety, depression, anger management.

If you would like to learn how therapy can help you, contact us at +65 9030 7239 or email us at tammy@allinthefamilycounselling.com. Therapy can be a very effective way to help you get your life and relationships back on track and feel better about your decisions and stop feeling like the world is against you.

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